Conditional versus unconditional love
Conditional love says : « I love you if you are as I want and need you to be. If you are not, then I will withdraw my love from you/ love will not be granted to you”. Being loved conditionally is felt as a contraction in the body rather than as an expansion as it limits the expression of the self. It doesn’t allow us to fully grow and expand into who we truly are. This form of love asks us to conform to another person’s expectation of who we should be or how we should behave according to them and to their own standards.